Relationship Counselling
Relationships are one of the hardest things to succeed at.
You not only have your emotions to contend with, you also have your partner’s. And most people have trouble contending with their own emotions let alone anyone else’s.
Add some children, and you also have their emotions to contend with.
It can become a real nightmare.
Succeeding in a relationship is a life skill we are never taught. For most, it is “trial and error” with error winning on most occasions.
Getting into a relationship is easy.
Getting out of it is much more difficult – especially if children are involved.
You have an emotional investment, a physical investment, a financial investment and may be a child investment.
For these reasons, it is worth making it work.
Clive’s History
From working with people for 35 years, and from his younger days’ history of constantly being rejected out of relationships, Clive has developed a common-sense approach to helping individuals and couples.
On one hand, he can explain what doesn’t work.
On the other, he has been with his wife Julie for 29 years so can explain the keys to making a relationship work.
Over the years, Clive has come up with many concepts on how to make a relationship “magical”.
These are common sense and easy to implement.
At Your Appointment
It is best if you both come in together for the first session.
Clive needs to find out from both of you what the problems are as well as the solutions you are seeking.
From only seeing one partner, they give their opinion on what is happening – which is often very different to their partner’s.
If only one of you wants to come in, Clive will give you skills on ways to get it working.
At the session, it is very important to be brutally honest.
Watering things down so as not to look bad or hurt your partner leads to many complications.
Clive will give you skills and strategies on ways to build your relationship to where you would like it to be.
He will also address any issues that need to be rectified – like, if one partner is jealous, possessive or controlling. If this is the case, there is always a reason why this occurs.
Possible Subjects Covered
Clive sees many different problems in relationships, including:
- An affair
- Constantly arguing
- Falling out of love
- Lack of intimacy
- Communication problems
- Not understanding each other
- Parenting issues
- Not being allowed to do what you want
- One partner controlling
- Money issues
- Violence
- Abuse
- Telling “porky pies” (fibs)
- Lack of commitment
… and many more.
Post Relationship Problems
If your relationship is not working, you may need some help in the following areas:
(1) Not sure if this is the right relationship for you?
Clive will help you decide. He has a great exercise for you to complete which will help you make a decision.
(2) Looking to get over an ex?
Clive has another great exercise that can help here and help you deal with the trauma of breaking up.
(3) Been made to look like you are worthless?
No need to be this way. Clive’s exercise on self-esteem is regarded by many as one of the world’s best. This will help you to move forward with confidence and create a life that is right for you.
If you would like to know more info or, to make an appointment, please call us on 02 6921 6373.
