There are a number of things that determine how well you process what is happening in your life, two of which are: (i) the information you are taught and learn, and (ii) the experiences you go through. Each helps shape the way you think. Therefore, to change your thinking it is important to have the knowledge on how to do so. Once you have the knowledge, if you are still suffering in some way, it may be time to examine your programming.

Positive v’s Negative Thinking

With everything you do, there are two sides to doing it – a positive and a negative. Because you run on energy, your mind weighs up the positives and negatives and gives you a net feeling. For example, you may want to be in a great relationship but, when you were 18 years of age, your partner had an affair and left you for this other person. Because your mind has no concept of time, this memory is still current with all you learnt from the experience at 18 (like “Don’t trust people of the opposite sex”). Your mind now has 20 units of positive energy to put into this new relationship (you want to make it work) but the experience of 18 contains 120 units of negative energy (you don’t want to give 100% of yourself and then get hurt) so the net becomes 100 units of negative energy. In this example, it is important to turn the negative experience at 18 into a positive one (with positive energy) so the experience works for you. To do this, you can either have a consultation with a professional, read a relevant book, attend a seminar or do a course. In “You Have The Power”, there is a chapter on how your mind processes information and how to deal with problems so they work for you rather than against you. Over the past 35 years Clive has developed his own unique way of helping people. He calls it “Common Sense Therapy”. Clive empowers you through giving you knowledge and resolving conflict. Through dealing with the cause of a problem, consultations are kept to a minimum and there is a good chance you will receive near instant results.

How Long Should Therapy Take?

This depends on a number of factors: (i) How complex the problem is, and (ii) How quickly the client is prepared to work. Clive can only work at the pace the client is prepared to work. It’s important to take care and be thorough. (iii) What the client wants to achieve – some want a quick fix, others want a long-term fix. After the first consultation, Clive will be able to give you an indication on how many sessions will be needed. Many range from 2 to 4.

What Happens In Therapy?

When you present, Clive knows nothing about you. He needs to know: What the problem is. What your Ideal solution is – that is, what you would like to achieve from the session. Clive’s aim is to give you skills and strategies on how to help yourself so when you go home, you are in a position to be able to help yourself when similar problems arise in the future. Most of what you learn is Common Sense and easy to understand.

When Therapy is not Working

Most clients comment “The solution is so simple and common sense”. It is meant to be. If you return for a second consultation and you have not started to receive a result, Clive looks to see “why”. In most cases there is either: (i) a bad experience stopping you from going forward and processing positive information – in other words, you know what you should be doing but there is something stopping you from doing it. A good example of this is weight loss where you know what to eat and you know to exercise but you don’t. No matter what you do, you still have the weight problem and this is where another factor like stress can play a major part, or (ii) your thinking is not right. Factors here include you may not want to get better, you’re not worthy of getting better, you want someone else to fix the problem, it’s all too hard or you don’t have the energy to put into it. These need to be addressed before any results will be seen. If you are getting regular counselling and it is not working, find out “why” and maybe move on and find someone who can help you. Clive specialises in helping you overcome problems like:

• Depression Anxiety Grief Panic / anxiety attacks Suicidal thoughts Poor self esteem Relationship problems Eating disorders – like anorexia, bulimia, over-weight Parenting problems Stressful situations –  work, home, relationships A sense of loss/grief Fears – like rejection, failure, success, change and loneliness Addictions and obsessions Smoking Loss of direction Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome Stuttering Insomnia Anger problems

Clive helps you achieve:

• High self esteem Confidence Motivation Peak performance Control of your life Weight loss Your goals – short and long term A magical relationship with partner and family A feeling of peace and wellbeing

Every problem has a solution. From working with people for 31 years, Clive is yet to find a problem that does not have a solution. While you hang onto your problems, it is easy for things to get worse as negative thinking produces more negative energy. And if you have a choice between emotionally going up or down, you want to be going up. Make the commitment to help yourself. The more knowledge you have on how to help yourself, the better you feel. Clive helps transform you so you feel a sense of peace and motivated.

Types of Appointment

(i) Face to face. These are generally one-on-one if you have the problem. If it is a relationship problem, it is important to come with with your partner as you will both see things differently (and Clive needs to hear both sides of the story!). If there are issues that affect the whole family, Clive is happy to consult with the family. (ii) Telephone. To book a phone consultation, you can either phone Clive on 02 6921 6373 (International +61 2 6921 6373) to secure a time or e-mail him at clive@clivemurphy.com (iii) Skype. If you are interested in having a consultation using Skype, please either phone Clive on 02 6921 6373 (International +61 2 6921 6373) or e-mail him at clive@clivemurphy.com for particulars. (iv) Zoom. This is via an online meeting room that is totally safe and confidential. Zoom allows Clive to show slides which adds to the quality of the session. He simply sends you a link to the room and you click on it at the time of the session.

Clive’s Qualifications

• NLP Practitioner Diploma Clinical Hypnosis Post Graduate Diploma Psychotherapy Diploma Health – Clinical Hypnosis EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) Educational Kinesiology

Clive also has a Bachelor Agricultural Science, a Diploma Swedish Massage Therapy and a Diploma Iridology. Clive rates his greatest qualification as studying at the University of Life, School of Hard Knocks. His three favourite subjects are “Keep It Simple”, “Common Sense” and “Get Results”.

For More Information

If you would like more information on how Clive can help you, please feel free to contact us on 02 6921 6373.

How To Choose A Good Therapist

It is important to select a therapist that is going to deliver the result you are looking for. Referrals from friends or others who have achieved a great result are worth pursuing. Finding one in the Yellow Pages can be a nightmare as they all look the same. Here is a guide to help you find the therapist that is right for you.

Testimonials

“I have been to a few different Counsellor’s but you are the ONLY ONE who gave me tools to solve problems, not just sat there and listened.” … Simone “I want to thank you so much, you have made such a difference in so many ways.” … Jen From a counsellor Clive is mentoring: “My client arrived today, said she didn’t feel well, wasn’t sure she should be here, dragged herself into the chair looking really glum. End of session: she bounced out the door with a smile on her face and said I should feel good about the session today as well! It worked!! Thank you thank you thank you – I am so grateful for your support” … Fiona “After seeing 11 specialists with nothing working, I see you once and you identify the cause of my problem and how to fix it. Thank you.” … Diane