What Should I Do?

I often consult with someone who asks “What do I do here?”.

It may relate to a relationship (“Should I get back with him/her or not?”), a new job (Should I leave the old known job for this new one with better pay?”) or something for home (Should we outlay all this money for a new pool?”).

You can back it in, everyone has an opinion on what would be best for you.

Many listen to the opinions of others and fail to do what their heart tells them would be in their best interest.

It’s great to get advice. It gives you an alternative.

Remember, people will only tell you what they would do if they were in the same situation as you.

Read that again!

First, if you are not sure on what to do, it is great to seek advice.

Second, people should only be giving you options with possible consequences. They should not be telling you what to do – unless your life depends on it! This is where “Get out of that violent relationship now” is good advice.

Some examples of advice …

When I left the agriculture industry to enter the self-help industry, my parents warned me against it. They couldn’t see it working and knew nothing about self help. I persisted with my dream and developed a passion for what I did. When asked what Clive is up to, they would say “We’re not sure. He is helping people.”

Over time, they heard how others had changed their life and this changed their attitude to what I was doing.

I’m so grateful I listened to what my heart was telling me and lived my passion.

Ensure you do the same.

In another example, a lady was going to leave her husband because he had an affair. Her friends all told her to leave him as she deserved better, and he was an ar**hole for doing that to her.

She asked me what she should do. I responded, “I have no idea because I don’t have the emotional attachment to your family. Let’s explore possibilities and so you can pick one that will work for you.”

After empowering her to take control, she decided to give her relationship another go. Her husband was a willing participant and wanted to make it work. I could see he was genuinely remorseful for what he had done – which was a one-off event as against an ongoing event. Two years later they are both making it work and are very happy with where they are.

Interestingly, one of this lady’s friends who advised her to leave, became a client because her husband had an affair. She didn’t want to leave him.

As the old saying going: Advice is cheap. The advice people give is not always the advice they will take.

In summary, seek advice and make up your own mind. Don’t be swayed by what others think – it’s only their opinion and they do not have to live by the consequences.

You do.

If you are giving advice, give options with possible consequences. Let them pick the best option. Your role is to help them make a good choice.

You’ve got this …