Have You Learnt The Lesson?

those who live in the past - clivemurphy.com

There is a small plaque in my office that says, “Those who live in the past are likely to repeat it”.

When we have a bad experience, it is easy to dwell on that experience. Before we know it, one week, one month, one year or ten years have passed and we are still dwelling on what happened. Some even go as far back as two hundred years!

This creates a major problem.

Our focus is on what we don’t like or what we don’t want. 

I regularly hear people say they don’t agree with what has happened in the past yet they continue to talk about it. I can see the anger they have for what has happened and this simply makes them an angry person.

As a rule of mind says, “What you think is what you get”, we continue to live that negative experience which, in turn, will cause us to attract more of that experience.

There are three phases to life: the past, present and future. Only one matters.

The present.

My rule is to “Learn from the past … to live for now … to go forward into the future”.

As an example, my first girlfriend dumped me for my best mate when I was around 20 years of age. I held a lot of anger to them both for many years. I constantly thought of how I had been wronged and how I was the victim. I kept replaying the vision of catching them in bed together “doing it”. 

Yep! I was stuck in the past.

Over the next ten years I had three other girlfriends do the same thing to me.

Oops! There’s a pattern! 

My past became my present.

It was time to change.

Fast forward to now and I thank each one of those girlfriends for being a part of my life. They each played a part in me to getting to where I am now.

Without them, I would not be living the life I am, married to a beautiful lady, great children and having the ability to help so many people.

Those incidents were blessings in disguise.

Use whatever has happened in your past to create a better life for yourself. 

Make those negative memories work for you rather than against you.

Even behind all those clouds, the sun is still shining. Your life will get better.

Especially if you commit to making it better.

You’ve got this.

Now, if you will please excuse me while I get ready for tonight’s webinar on “Transform Your Life”. I’m looking forward to helping change people’s lives.