One of the things I love about my work is helping people. It is such a great reward to be able to help people overcome the challenges in their life, and to help them deal with issues so they are able to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Over the last three weeks I’ve had three clients come back to me explaining how they have improved their life massively. All three clients were struggling in their relationship and feeling anger at their needs not being met. All three were giving their power away.

I took each of them through a program I have developed on self-esteem. Each has started to take control of how she feels and what she wants from her life.

They tell me how, through them changing and no longer being reactive, the whole dynamics of their relationship with their partner has changed. As each has stopped reacting to people, the ones they love have stopped reacting to them.

This is why it’s so important to sort our life out because when we do, we start responding to people and they respond to us.

Each client says they are living the best life they’ve ever lived. And I can see that in their face. I can see the happiness that they have. I hear they are no longer reacting to others. They have released the anger with what’s happening to them. They appear to be filled with happiness for all that is in their life.

It’s a wonderful state to have … and everyone should have it.

I know, from following Dr Wayne Dyer, one of his favourite sayings is “When you change the way you look at things, the things that you look at change”.

This is so true. All too often people want others to change. “If only my partner would do this or stop doing that, my life would be better”.

“If only my partner helped me or backed me up, my life would be good”.

While these statements may be correct, it’s interesting how we always want to change someone else. It’s important to look at the number one person in our life that we do have control over. And that person is … ourself.

Just as we bounce off others, others emotionally bounce off us. As an example, if we get angry with someone, they will respond accordingly and get angry with us. If we’re happy with someone, there’s a good chance they’re gonna be happy with us. This is why it’s so important for us to decide the state that we want to be in because it will radiate out to others.

Want others to change. First, you be the change you want others to be.

You’ve got this.