Relationships are special. They
create much emotion - "love" when things are going well - "rejection"
when things are going poorly.
Most people spend little or no
time working on and improving their relationship. They simply "hope" it
will be good and it will stay good.
Relationships need to be
worked on. The following questionnaire will help you identify those
areas you need to work on to make your relationship "Magical".
The
following are some of the main factors that are required to make a
relationship a success. Score each out of 10 (with 10 being perfect and
0 a big problem). Once you have scored it, get your partner to do the
same without seeing your scores.
_____ Honesty – are you totally honest with each other?
_____ Trust – do you completely trust your partner? Can you view their
emails and text messages or do they have something to hide?
_____ Effective Communication – how effective is your communication?
Do you listen or over-ride, discuss or argue, talk about problems or
solutions?
_____ Respect – do you respect each other for what you do, say and think?
_____ Understanding – is there understanding as to why you partner does things?
_____ Commitment – how committed are you to making this relationship a success?
_____ Compromise – do you respect each other’s point of view and work
things out for a win/win (as against one person having to be right)?
Are you solution orientated?
_____ Unconditional Love – do you love each other unconditionally?
_____ Individuality – are you allowed to do things by yourself and have your own space?
_____ Share – do you share your experiences and your tasks / chores?
_____ Great Romance and Sex – do you enjoy romance and love making with each other?
_____ Willingness to Resolve Conflict – at the time it arises for a win/win result?
_____ Develop Together – do you constantly work on improving yourself and your relationship?
_____ Fun – do have fun together at home and when out?
Compare
your score with your partner’s. If either of you score a question below
10, you both need to work on that area. The lower the score, the more
work that is needed. Once you help each other, you both enjoy that area
fully.
When all the above ingredients are present in your
relationship … you have peace, happiness, harmony and most important, a
“magical” relationship.