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"Murphy's Law" is a 3 minute newsletter that gives you tips on how to deal with life issues. Here are some samples:

Sample 1:

Words That Reveal What You Think

One of the questions I ask many of my clients is:

"What are your good points?"

While the most common response is "Oh, I don't know. I haven't got many", some do come up with a few.

What I notice is how they describe themselves.

"I suppose I'm a kind person".
"I think I'm a good worker".
"I believe I'm good to others".

What's wrong with these descriptions?

There are two major problems. I'll cover one now and one in the next newsletter.

The first problem is the 2nd word to each sentence.

Here are four words:

Hope
Think
Believe
Know

... And you can place "Suppose" up the top there.

Of the above four words, which one is the most important?

Let me give you an example. Imagine I owe you $5,000. Which statement would you prefer to hear?

"I hope I can pay you back"
"I think I can pay you back"
"I believe I can pay you back"
"I know I can pay you back"

Obviously, the last one.

It is definite, certain. The higher we go up the list, the more uncertain things become. "I hope I can pay you back" is very uncertain whereas "I think I can pay you back" is more certain.

What you say describes what you are thinking.

"I think I'm a good person" reveals you are very uncertain about this. "I know I'm a good person" is total certainty.

The same applies to when you, or another person, says things like "I think I can do it", "I hope I can make that appointment" and "I believe that's right".

 

 

Action Plan

Become aware of when you use hope, think, believe and know. Change what you say to "I know ..." or to making a statement that involves certainty.

If someone else is using uncertain words, ask them what part they are unsure of or what has to happen for it to become certain. For example, when someone says "I think I can do it", you know they are very doubtful. To overcome this, you may like to ask "What part are you unsure of?" to gain some clarity.

 

Good luck and let us know your thoughts.

 

 

We would love to know what you think.

Go to our blog and let us know what you think and your experiences. What you have to say will help others.

 

On the Light-Hearted Side

• When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

 

• Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

 

• Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

 

Some Words of Wisdom

"Faith can move mountains. Doubt can create them."
... Howard Wight

 

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Sample 2:

Describe Yourself

Most people suffer without realizing the reasons "why". They continue with the same thinking wondering why they continue to receive the same result.

I often consult with someone who continually makes bad choices with who they have a relationship with, the job they get or their financial status.

Their thinking, unbeknown to them, determines what they receive.

As an example, allow me to test you on the following:

 

1. Are you healthy?
2. Are you wealthy?
3. Are you slim/athletic?
4. Do you see yourself as a good person?
5. Do you see yourself as old?
6. Are you honest?

How did you go? How many "Yeses" do you have?

For the questions you answered "Yes" to, now answer the question with a "because ..." at the end. For example, "I am wealthy because ..."

If you have hesitated in answering the question, I would suggest you are not seeing yourself in the said state. This has a great effect on what you achieve.

 

I was working with a man who wanted to stop gambling. While he was earning $850 a week in wages, he was gambling on average $350 a week. My testing revealed he needed to earn $2,400 a week to feel financially good. He immediately saw why he had the need to gamble.

I asked him: "Are you wealthy?"
"No" he replied. "I just earn enough to get by".

Think about his statement. He's not wealthy and he just earns enough. What is the vision that gives you?

If he does not see himself as wealthy, he must see himself as poor. This is reinforced by the statement "I just earn enough to get by".

If you are not healthy, you must see yourself in terms of sick.
If you are not slim, you must be fat.
If you are not good, you must be bad.
If you see yourself as old, you can't be young.
If you are not honest, you are dishonest.

When you see yourself a certain way, you live to that way. If you see yourself as old, you will feel old. You will lose mobility as you gain aches and pains. If you mix with much younger people, you will begin to feel younger.

Two important points:
(i) what you think is what you get. For example, think about being sick and you will start to feel sick.

(ii) what you think is what you attract. For example:

• a person who is dishonest will generally mix with others who are dishonest.

 

• a positive person is generally drawn to positive people.

An exercise I do at seminars is to place a shy sad person on one side of the room and a happy outgoing person on the other side. I then ask the audience to go and stand next to the person they feel comfortable with.

People go to whom they feel happy with. A shy person is most likely to associate with another shy person.

 

• When you see yourself as poor, you attract more poverty.

When you focus on what you are missing, you experience more of what you are missing as that is all you are seeing and feeling.

I recently consulted with a young lady whose past three boyfriends have "abused" and "used" her.

Is this bad luck or is she attracting a certain type of man into her life? Her attitude revealed she felt worthless and a predominant thought was "Who is going to want me?"

 

While you may think "I'm not wealthy" or "I'm not slim", could you be poorer or bigger?

Focus on what you do have and see yourself in terms of already having what you want.

Do a stock-take on your life and see what you possess in terms of wealth.

See yourself in terms of slim and you will begin to feel and act slim.

What you think determines what you receive.

 

 

What Worries You?

What sort of problems are you having?

Do they relate to the current economic climate, your health, relationships, family or work?

Send your questions to me at clive@clivemurphy.com

I'm keen to help you live a more fulfilled life.

Please note: All emails will remain totally confidential.

 

 

On the Light-Hearted Side

"Don't worry, I can stay out late tonight," Joe told his friend Bob. "My wife's gone for a two-week vacation in the Caribbean."

"Jamaica?" Bob asked.

"No, it was her idea."

 

 

Some Words of Wisdom

"When everyone thinks alike, no one thinks very much."
... Walter Lippmann

 

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 Sample 3:

Oops! I Forgot!

Many years ago I wrote an article on how to have great memory. I thought it would be great to share this with you as I am consulting with many who would like to improve this area of their life.

The only problem is, I've forgotten where I put it!

Good memory is something that is available to everyone - provided you do not have a medical condition that impairs it.

 

Nine ways to have a great memory:

1. Tell yourself you have great memory. Many say, "My memory is hopeless" and "I'm so forgetful". What you think becomes self-fulfilling. You will never disappoint yourself. To have great memory, you first have to see yourself achieving it.

2. Relax. Most people place themselves under pressure when they need to remember something. The more pressure you place yourself under, the less chance you have of remembering it. A good example is exams. People who place themselves under pressure generally have "their mind go blank".

3. Talk to yourself in terms of what you want. Instead of saying "I have forgotten". Say "Relax. The information is popping into my mind". When you have forgotten some-one's name, tell yourself this and your mind instantly begins a memory search. You will be surprised how well it works.

4. Place energy into that which you would like to remember. Many people, especially those involved in business, have too many things happening at the same time. If you are reading an article while someone is speaking with you, there is a great chance you will remember little about both. Too much is going on.

Good memory comes from giving that which you would like to remember your full attention.

5. Have repetition. You learnt your 5 times table through repetition. When I meet people for the first time, I constantly repeat their name verbally and under my breath.

6. Drink plenty of water. Water hydrates you and helps improve your memory. And No, alcohol does not count as water. Alcohol dehydrates your body and messes with your thinking. Other liquids to avoid include soft drinks (as they contain sugar) and caffeine.

7. Eat memory foods. According to Keith Lugton, a naturopath, the best brain foods are green vegetables (especially the ones that contain folic acid) and fish. The ones to avoid are junk foods and especially those high in sugar. Keith says beware of those foods that easily covert to sugar - like pasta and potatoes. 1 bowl of pasta is equivalent to a 7oz glass of sugar!

8. Take supplements. Some supplements can help with your memory. Keith says the main ones include fish oil, folic acid, a good multi-vitamin and Vitamin C with bioflavonoids. Herbs such as Gingko Biloba, Bacopa, Dotu Kola can enhance mental alertness, clarity and memory.

Importantly, if you are taking any medication, please consult with your doctor before taking supplements as some may react with your medication.

9. Hypnosis/meditation. I often use hypnosis with students who are about to sit exams to (i) alleviate the fear, pressure and tension, and (ii) give them great memory by placing suggestions in their subconscious that they will remember the information they have learnt.

 

 

On the Light-Hearted Side

• Boss: "Don't discuss your paycheck with others."

Employee: "Don't worry. I'm as ashamed of it as you are."

 

• Salesperson: On my first day out I got two orders. . . .Get out! and stay out!

 

Some Words of Wisdom

Happines is not so much in having as sharing.
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
... Anon

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